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Oct 17, 2008 10:26:26 GMT -5
Post by Meredith on Oct 17, 2008 10:26:26 GMT -5
I just found out this morning that my EX has passed away. He was only 30 years old. I was in a really bad relationship with him for 6 years. I loved him deeply but our personalities clashed very badly. He cheated a lot, and drank a lot, did a lot of drugs, and really put me through the ringer. I hung in there all that time thinking he would change, hoping that he would change, trying to make him change and love me the way I wanted him too. I eventually ended it knowing that we just weren't meant to be. I have Neil now and I know he is without a doubt the one. Is it ok that I am so devastated? My heart is breaking into bits right now with the news. His poor family....his poor Fiancee. This is so awful. www.legacy.com/UNIONLEADER/Obituaries.asp?Page=LifeStory&PersonID=118889722www.dailynewstribune.com/news/x502301535/2nd-worker-dies-from-injuries-at-AstraZeneca-work-site
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Oct 17, 2008 18:03:10 GMT -5
Post by adrienne on Oct 17, 2008 18:03:10 GMT -5
oh my...
well, i'm new here and i have no idea of when this thread started, but i'm sorry about this
and well, i think it's normal that u feel this way, i mean he was important in your life even though u had problems but still he was important ...
be strong *hugs*
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Samantha
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Oct 17, 2008 19:38:59 GMT -5
Post by Samantha on Oct 17, 2008 19:38:59 GMT -5
Im so sorry Meredith! The guy you were telling me and Karen about? It is normal to feel badly, especially if it ended badly.....it was a good span of time you spent, good or bad and you'd be a robot if it didn't bug you! It is never a happy thing when someone dies, especially so young. My deepest sympathies..if you need to talk I'm here for you!!!
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jessntx
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Oct 17, 2008 19:42:31 GMT -5
Post by jessntx on Oct 17, 2008 19:42:31 GMT -5
Sorry about your loss Meredith. I think it's perfectly normal for you to be so upset. From what you said he was someone that was in your life for a long time, and someone that you loved. I hope things get better. Please accept my condolences. If you would like someone to talk to, just let me know. Jess
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Oct 18, 2008 5:59:54 GMT -5
Post by Gabbee on Oct 18, 2008 5:59:54 GMT -5
Awww Mere, I'm so sorry!!!
#smileyhug#
It's ALWAYS normal to hurt when you lose someone that was once so close to you. When I think of all the people that are no longer in my life, even the ones that hurt me, I can't bring myself to wish them any harm.
I'm sure Neil will understand. I'm sure he knows he's everything for you, I mean, who doesn't? Just look at the two of you!
~Sending good vibes your way!
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Crushed
Oct 18, 2008 7:25:26 GMT -5
Post by Meredith on Oct 18, 2008 7:25:26 GMT -5
Im so sorry Meredith! The guy you were telling me and Karen about? It is normal to feel badly, especially if it ended badly.....it was a good span of time you spent, good or bad and you'd be a robot if it didn't bug you! It is never a happy thing when someone dies, especially so young. My deepest sympathies..if you need to talk I'm here for you!!! Yes, the AC/DC guy....among other things. Thanks for all the love and support. I am really really down about it. I was really close friends with his sister even after the Breakup and had to end my friendship with her to completely cut him out of my life. She was my best friend and I cannot even imagine how hard this is for her. I really want to pick up the phone but Ive told myself not to. I sent a card to the family and also sent flowers to the funeral which is today.
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Oct 18, 2008 7:30:26 GMT -5
Post by *Sonya* on Oct 18, 2008 7:30:26 GMT -5
When I read the article I thought it was going to say he od'd or something, but I see it was a construction accident. I'm really sorry for you loss Mere. I think it would be unnatural for you not to care about this. He was a huge part of your life for a long time. I know he didn't treat you the way you deserved to be treated while you were together, but that doesn't make a tragic and untimely death any easier to stomach. It was really sweet of you to send flowers and a card. Let me know if you need to talk. #smileyhug#
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Oct 18, 2008 7:58:57 GMT -5
Post by Deleted on Oct 18, 2008 7:58:57 GMT -5
You already got my PM... Sorry to hear Mere! #smileyhug#
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chickie
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Oct 18, 2008 10:35:25 GMT -5
Post by chickie on Oct 18, 2008 10:35:25 GMT -5
Sorry to hear of your loss. I understand your devastatation. The people that we loved in the past still have a place in our hearts. #sigh#
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Bam~Melon
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Oct 18, 2008 10:57:50 GMT -5
Post by Bam~Melon on Oct 18, 2008 10:57:50 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss Meredith ~My condolences.... #smileyhug#
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Oct 18, 2008 15:02:44 GMT -5
Post by 8807 on Oct 18, 2008 15:02:44 GMT -5
I'm so sorry about to hear about this Meredith.I agree with everyone else about how it's perfectly normal to feel any way that You are feeing right now.It's always good to own You're feelings,however they may be.We can try to change someones or even Ourselves way of thinking. When it comes to feelings they just are what they are & There really no use avoiding them. Sorry for rambling.Care about You!
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Oct 19, 2008 15:20:06 GMT -5
Post by Karen on Oct 19, 2008 15:20:06 GMT -5
Mere, I'm so sorry for your loss. I know that he wasn't good to you but it still hurt anyway. I wish that you would have been able to have the closure. You're in my thoughts as always.
#hugs#
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Oct 19, 2008 17:56:19 GMT -5
Post by Mr. Sexy on Oct 19, 2008 17:56:19 GMT -5
I'm really sorry for your loss, Mere.
I think it's normal for you to feel sad, I mean even though you love Neil, you DID love him and even if you didn't, you'd still be heart broken over a friend dying. It's natural.
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Oct 22, 2008 15:52:17 GMT -5
Post by breck20 on Oct 22, 2008 15:52:17 GMT -5
Mere, I just read this thread. I am so sorry and want to express my sympathies. Things will get better, just take it one day at a time. #smileyhug#
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Oct 22, 2008 16:58:20 GMT -5
Post by tripticket on Oct 22, 2008 16:58:20 GMT -5
oh man, i'm so sorry Mere. It's not wrong at all. it's natural to feel this way for someone u have had a history with. I'll be thinking of u. if u need Anything, don't hesitate to ask. #hugs#
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