Post by Meredith on May 7, 2010 18:18:21 GMT -5
Hey all...its been a while since I have had time to post much even though I check in as much as possible. With school, work, volunteering, and wifely duties my time has been limited and I apologize for not being more interactive. I make a point to check the forum a couple times a week and try to keep up....now that my Saturday classes are over and with me quitting my job in the fall (YAY) to go to school full time I should be back around in the swing of things like I want to be.
Just as I am getting ready to dive in I have had a sort of tragedy with my mother and I just don't know what to do anymore. She is an alcoholic and a cancer survivor. I wont go into too many details but I can tell you she put me through hell growing up. I almost didn't even have her at my wedding last June...but I did and she didn't get too hammered or cause a scene which made me want to try and have her in my life a little more. This summer in July I booked her plane tickets and planned a "bucket list" "trip for her....she has severe COPD and with as much as she smokes the doctors give her a few years before she is lugging around oxygen.
Anyway...I though let me plan this trip and take her to do all the things she loves and I will have a happy memory of my mother to cherish...
So I get a phone call Monday that my mother was found laying in the middle of a sidewalk at 2AM and was thought to be dead at first. It turned out she had alcohol poisoning and could have died but someone found her right in time. I was shocked to hear she was drinking like this again....I send her money every pay day (for food) and just found out she has been buying cases of wine with the wal-mart gift cards I send her.
I am so upset....like...how in the world can I have her at my house if she is a stumbling drunk...I don't want this in my life anymore. She is in complete denial of responsibility and is blaming some guy who left a strong beer at her house...Really? UGH!
To top things off the found something in her lungs and it might be cancer again...we find out Monday.
I really don't know what to do here. I want to cancel her plane tickets and stop sending her money....I don't want her around me but then I think "she is my mother".....It would break her heart to miss her trip to come see me and It would be awful if it turned out she had cancer again. I feel obligated to help...I don't know what to think or how to feel and if what I feel is wrong.
Thoughts?
Just as I am getting ready to dive in I have had a sort of tragedy with my mother and I just don't know what to do anymore. She is an alcoholic and a cancer survivor. I wont go into too many details but I can tell you she put me through hell growing up. I almost didn't even have her at my wedding last June...but I did and she didn't get too hammered or cause a scene which made me want to try and have her in my life a little more. This summer in July I booked her plane tickets and planned a "bucket list" "trip for her....she has severe COPD and with as much as she smokes the doctors give her a few years before she is lugging around oxygen.
Anyway...I though let me plan this trip and take her to do all the things she loves and I will have a happy memory of my mother to cherish...
So I get a phone call Monday that my mother was found laying in the middle of a sidewalk at 2AM and was thought to be dead at first. It turned out she had alcohol poisoning and could have died but someone found her right in time. I was shocked to hear she was drinking like this again....I send her money every pay day (for food) and just found out she has been buying cases of wine with the wal-mart gift cards I send her.
I am so upset....like...how in the world can I have her at my house if she is a stumbling drunk...I don't want this in my life anymore. She is in complete denial of responsibility and is blaming some guy who left a strong beer at her house...Really? UGH!
To top things off the found something in her lungs and it might be cancer again...we find out Monday.
I really don't know what to do here. I want to cancel her plane tickets and stop sending her money....I don't want her around me but then I think "she is my mother".....It would break her heart to miss her trip to come see me and It would be awful if it turned out she had cancer again. I feel obligated to help...I don't know what to think or how to feel and if what I feel is wrong.
Thoughts?