Hangar18
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Post by Hangar18 on Oct 3, 2006 19:41:42 GMT -5
ok, I like this one girl at school, and she knows it and all (i wont get into detail) but i was wonering. How would you guys strike up a good conversation at school? Me and her talk and hang out daily, so its not like im asking on how to start talking to her, but im wondering on how do i get a good conversation started?
Thanks
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Post by linwoodlarsons on Oct 3, 2006 23:20:24 GMT -5
That's a good question. I've been married for 13 years, so I wouldn't have the slightest idea how to "hit-on" a girl. Sometimes I go to the bar where my brother works and watch him and my friends "pick-up" women. It's kinda funny really. Then I just go home to my wife and laugh.
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Post by foreverlights on Oct 3, 2006 23:54:27 GMT -5
Yeah i have the same type of problem... i am really shy around girls and am good being friendly with them but i dont know how to take the next step... or to go up to some random stranger and talk to them... i would love to be in hangar's position by actually liking one of the girls you hang out with... i have once, but it turned out badly for me... i think she liked me but was sort of girlfriend to my best friend (Year 6 love...lol) but he found out in an unavoidable situation for me, and then we went to different high schools on different sides of Sydney, so we lost contact... Damn this forum... it is too easy to open up!!!
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Post by Barbara on Oct 4, 2006 5:10:58 GMT -5
Damn this forum... it is too easy to open up!!! Haha, yeah, it is! Sometimes I think I really talk too much and I actualy forget that this a "public" place lol. And I hope nobody who knows me will read my posts one day I hope you didn't loose contact with your best friend because of the girl...that would be too bad... Anyways, I don't think there's an "universal" answer to the question...we are all very different and something that a girl/guy will love another one could dislike... So I think the essential thing is to feel what kind of person is she, her interests, things that mean a lot to her...it's some kind of intuition thing...at least for me. I know this doesn't help you much with your problem but I tried.
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bumcakes
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Post by bumcakes on Oct 4, 2006 5:53:29 GMT -5
In school aye!?
lol Actually i dont know if i have any advice, i just wanted to join in and pretend like i know what im talking about.
Buy her a drink??? LOL jokes.
Actually what barb said was probably right, just show an interest in finding out more about what shes into, i think girls like talking about themselves.
Well, some do...i personally just like to drink and say cunt alot.
Bah! Dude, keep us updated on how things are turning out (dont need to go into icky details) but yeh let us know if you do strike up that "good conversation" with your little lass.
#mixed-smiley-002#
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Post by Joel on Oct 4, 2006 6:23:04 GMT -5
Think this through before you do anything..You`re friends with this girl so is it worth risking to ruin that friendship? It doesn`t necessarily happen but the risk is there.It`s easier to find a new girl than a real friend.
Then again it`s easy for me to say cos i`m not in your situation.
Good luck!
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Post by Meredith on Oct 4, 2006 7:18:55 GMT -5
I loved shy boys when I was single. When Neil and I first got together he was so nervous his lips would shiver! I think the best approach is to be honest, maybe even give her flowers or ask her out on a date, its ok to be shy or nervous, that lets the girl know that you are seriously interested. When a guy has that "whatever" attitude and is calm and cool I think he only wants one thing, or he is not that interested. How does she act around you?
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Post by Barbara on Oct 4, 2006 8:00:35 GMT -5
Buy her a drink??? LOL jokes. bums, not all the girls are so easy to get as you are #outtahere# I think the best approach is to be honest I agree with that, if you'll get into a relationship, the person will know you well sooner or later anyway. And the last thing you want in a relationship is to pretend. If you're looking for someone it's also to have a best friend, to share things, to trust... Just be who you are!
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Post by *Sonya* on Oct 4, 2006 8:28:01 GMT -5
I think you should really get to know her. Girls like it when guys are interested in what they have to say. I think Barbara already nailed it with her comment...find out who she is, what are her interests, feelings, opinions, etc. Ask her questions about herself and try to relate to what she's saying. The more you get her talking about herself, the more you can find out what you have in common. The conversation should progress naturally at that point.
Confidence is a huge factor! Even if you are shy, you can still have confidence. Don't be afraid to ask her questions. She will most likely be flattered that you are so interested in her. Figure out what you want to know about her and don't be afraid to ask...just act naturally.
While you're having a conversation, you should try to find out if there are any other guys she is interested in. If you're interested in dating her you will need to know her current situation. Even if she doesn't have a boyfriend, there might be a guy that she's had a crush on that she's holding out for. The more you know the easier it will be for you to figure out what to do next.
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Post by foreverlights on Oct 4, 2006 8:33:01 GMT -5
haha theres definately a Dr Phil vibe happening here... IDEA!!! A thread for relationship advice with Dr Gelf, Dr Barbs and Dr Bums...lol
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verbalpocketplay
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Post by verbalpocketplay on Oct 4, 2006 8:43:07 GMT -5
Damn this forum... it is too easy to open up!!! ha, agreed well look if you want to get the girl this is what you do, Matt taught us all this move so I owe it all to him. ask the girl over to watch a movie. put the movie in. fall asleep 15 minutes into the movie. then you got her.
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Post by Meredith on Oct 4, 2006 12:16:22 GMT -5
#haha# Matt is such a pimp! #pimp#
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Post by Deleted on Oct 4, 2006 12:37:22 GMT -5
Yea, I rule like that... Just ask her to go make out in the bathroom. That's always a good one.
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Post by ishbell on Oct 4, 2006 12:46:22 GMT -5
Yea, I rule like that... Just ask her to go make out in the bathroom. That's always a good one. Yep, that's very subtle and romantic it oughta get him something like ummm maybe a punch in the nose.
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Post by ~BEE~Happy~ on Oct 4, 2006 13:07:40 GMT -5
Awww, Matt took my idea! "Wanna make out?" always worked for me. I never went in the bathroom or anything like that though. I usually just giggled, and if a little smoochin took place, coolio, but that was the extent to my "puttin' the moves on anyone".... hence the short term nick-name "hot lips" & "the kissing bandit" #weird# It was innocent, I swear! ok, you're asking a serious question, and I'm not being very serious right now. I'll get back to ya! Everyone else seems to have some great thoughts on it though!
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